All this time, this very long time, you have been sad. As if Sad has become your way of life. You smile, you do smile. You crack jokes and laugh hard with people who won’t believe their ears if someone told them how you spend nights wondering about ways to end your life. You pick yourself up, and tell yourself that you’re strong. And oh. You are strong. But somehow, you are unable to rid yourself of this constant gloom. And nobody knows.
I do. I feel you.
But what if I tell you that you’re just one step away from ridding yourself of this heavy wicked something that’s eating up all your moments you could spend feeling light and peaceful, or adoring the things that you have, or at the least, falling asleep without crying? You’re just one step away. Just for this moment, just because this will work, look at it this way:
You have not been sad. You have just been not happy. So bro, we aren’t calling it sadness or depression. Please don’t say that you’re depressed. The only reason behind your sadness, if that is what you call it, is the absence of happiness. It’s the absence of reasons to be happy. Are you able to see it that way? Are you able to give a thought to what I just said? Take a moment. Read it again. You are not sad. You are just not happy.
The one step that I’m talking about is a promise that you need to make to yourself. It’s a decision that you’ll take. A decision you’ll stick to. Because we don’t break promises that we make to our own selves, do we? No.
If you can make a promise, you can keep a promise.
I’ll tell you what the promise is, but before that, let me correct myself.
It isn‘t the absence of reasons to be happy. They are there, still there. But we have some fresh new reasons to be sad, so we have switched our frame of view to these new things that make us sad, and we keep on zooming into them. Unknowingly overlooking our good old reasons to be happy. So rude of us. So rude of us, we waste time waiting for something else, waiting, yearning, crying, wishing, unknowingly disrespecting what we already have. Unknowingly failing to find happiness in everything we already have.
You need to stop waiting. You are deliberately waiting for something. Stop.
Let’s play a little game here. Try this for a day and allow your soul to feel the change. This activity is for your soul.
Imagine yourself holding sorrows in your arms, the ones that you’ve been carrying for such a long time. Drop all of it on the floor. Drop your past mistakes, drop that heartbreak you had, drop regrets, drop failures, drop tensions and worries, drop insecurities, drop expectations, drop that longing, drop every thought that brings tears in your eyes. Drop everything that has been haunting you. Drop every trouble on the floor. Your arms need to be empty. Imagine your arms completely empty. Free. Relieved.
Are you imagining?
Now imagine more. Imagine that you make a secret promise to yourself, that you won‘t pick anything from the floor again. You’ll take charge of your mood. When you feel low, when in the middle of the night, a sad thought tries to enter your mind, promise that you’ll immediately switch to a happy reason! That you’ll start thinking about how funny and dumb your bestfriend is, or how much you enjoy with them, or the last time you ate your favorite food, or that funny video that you watched on Facebook, or simply scroll through jokes like this one,
Switch your frame from sad to happy. You need to train your brain by doing this every time! Push it away, whatever tries to make you feel low. You’ll develop this habit of valuing happy moments. Give up on this sad habit. Make a promise that you will close doors to everything sad. Imagine closing doors to everything sad. Forever. Now only peace and gratitude is allowed to stay. Imagine your heart healing.
We humans, we have a higher tendency of pushing ourselves towards sadness than toward happiness. And that is why, we find it so easy to cry. When we can break into crying for no reason, can’t we smile for no reason? Smile wide everyday. Smile like a stupid, make the ugliest faces, laugh on your own self!
Imagine how peaceful that feeling is. No more crying, no more sleepless nights, no more complains. Because suddenly, like very suddenly, you have the key! You suddenly have a promise to keep! A promise to self. Your own secret promise. You suddenly have a purpose in life. And that purpose is to keep yourself happy. The moment you let go, you start living. You were just a realisation away. Just a secret promise away.
Sadness will lead you nowhere in life. Nowhere. Nothing bad can ever attract good. You’ll remain stuck forever, it’s a trap that’ll fool you. It’s just a myth. Depression is a myth. Even if it isnt, believe that it is. I believe it is, and I healed myself.
So let go. Start living. Live with what you have. Because all that you have, is enough to make you feel happy about life. Aspire, dream, work, achieve, grow, take pride, make proud, pull yourself out, get back to life. Because life isn’t bad. Life isn’t hard on you. Rather, life is so good that when you give something to it, it gives you back twice as much. 🙂
Try. Take the step towards your own secret promise...
Feel free to your feelings. I’m here for you. Email : firstname.lastname@example.org. Take care, strong child! You got this.